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It’s the small things.
1. The way I’d catch you looking at me from across the room, the wink’s the smiles. You had a way of making me feel like I was the only girl in sight.
2. How you referred to me as “baby girl” while comforting me.
3. How every night we’d fall asleep in each other's arms, and wake up in the same exact position.
4. Your singing. When those country love songs would come on in the car, the chorus would come, you’d grab my hand, look at me and sing it. Or late at night right before sleep hit, hearing the calm of your voice singing whatever was in your head.
5. When you called me from a live concert, and said “This song makes me think of you” and held the phone out so I could listen. (I still get butterflies when I hear Brass Bed)
6. How you wouldn’t leave a room with out asking “Do you need anything, Are you ok?”
7. How in the middle of all the chaos of New Years eve, everyone running around, hugging, screaming HAPPY NEW YEAR, phone calls being made to loved ones, music blaring in the new year. You stopped amidst every thing, looked me in the eyes and said “I don’t ever want to be with anyone else”.
8. The way you were with my brother. The smile in your eyes when you were running around the living room with him. The way I knew that you’d be such an amazing father one day.
CONFESSION: These things don’t happen anymore. HAH. We no longer do things to make one another feel special. We do things to help one another out. (I’ll do dinner so you can do this… or… I’ll change the diaper because you did last time) We do things for the family as a whole. But we have stopped doing things for each other as an individual person. Those things that make one another feel special. The things you do in the beginning of relationships. I needed this list today. I needed to be reminded of all these things. Times are trying right now, and this list helps me weed out the negative thoughts that come creeping in.
I needed to be reminded that I, myself, have stopped doing the small things for him.
Love is not just a feeling. It is an action. It’s a CHOICE. It is something that does not just happen, it’s something you choose to do on a daily basis.
# kristanlynn
xoxo
Note: Picture dates range from 2006- Present.
I have days when I feel crummy, because my husband doesn't do special things for me anymore. I try to remind myself that he works really hard, so I can be a stay at home mom. Also, we try to add kisses and hugs into those moments when we are doing mundane things for one another (like changing diapers). If Steve offers to fold the laundry while I do dishes, we'll share a long hug before going off to do our chores, which is a reminder that even though there isn't much time for those early relationship things, we are still in love.
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh! Butterflies. . . and I NEED to write my husband this list. . . all the little things. . . and i need to remember to do all the little things for him. . . this was an AWESOME post! :-) Thanks for your words this morning!
ReplyDeleteLove this post! Everyone goes through times where we just forget what those butterflies feel like. We lose are selfs sometimes as individuals once we become a family. Its is the little things that really matter and now a days those little things maybe be TAKING OUT THE GARBAGE!! LOL! I know personally myself the hardest time we had in our relationship was when my kids were between the ages of 1-3. Now that they are 5 and 4 we have a lot more US time as they play with each other and are a little more independent. I love your posts they are so real and let ppl know that there is others out there going through the same situations!
ReplyDeleteThis is such a cute post! I think so many of us are guilty of forgetting to do the little things - we get so caught up in the craziness of everyday life! This was such a great reminder!
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Good job love!! I seriously have tears in my eyes right now.....not so sure I like this emotional mood I'm in but this was great! And it made a flood of good memories come back of your butterfly times. :)
ReplyDeleteSo very true, we must always remind ourselves of all of those reasons! ~ D ~
ReplyDeletei love seeing these old photos of you guys! as cute as you were back then, i think you two are becoming even better together with age <3 you really have a gorgeous glow now that you are in your element as a mama.
ReplyDeleteerik does number six, something i've always thought was really sweet - also partly because once i'm sitting down somewhere, i get really lazy and having someone offer to get you a drink etc. is a really wonderful small gesture. he might not write me poetry or sing me songs, but he can be sweet and thoughtful, and i too have to remind myself of that daily to not let the negative creep in.
i wish i had wise words for you, but seeing as we are both kind of in the same boat and at really similar times in our lives (ya know, minus the children for me), i don't know the answers myself. it's a hard transition from being young and constantly having new, exciting relationships where you do those fun little things; to being with ONE person for a long time and having to finally become an adult and face boring, mundane adult responsibilities and problems on a daily basis with your significant other. i'm finding that it works for us to try and do something fun and enjoyable, even if just a walk outside, BEFORE we do our chores on the weekend - because that neverending mountain of laundry and dishes is ALWAYS going to be there (yuck), and it doesn't mind waiting a few hours. when we do our chores first it always seems we run out of time/energy to do something fun too.
i have to remind myself, too, to be nice and loving - it's not fair of us to expect it from them without doing it in return. at least we realize all of this - now the hardest part is practice, practice, practice :)
xoxo
Hi! I'm a new reader, and I just have to give you some credit for this post. I'm sure there's a lot of people out there that can totally relate to this. Thanks. Your blog is cool. -Ashley
ReplyDeleteyou two make a nice couple, I wish you the best in your life together and that you can have all you want and be as happy as you want, bye!
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