It’s been awhile since I’ve done a confession post (speaking of, how many of you noticed that I spelt confessions wrong on the left side of my blog?? I surely didn’t, until a reader pointed it out… weeks ago.. and I still havn’t changed it. oops) … so here are some things that I’d tell you if you were here and we were drinking some coffee this AM.
Facebook annoys me. Like to the point I don’t really even get on it anymore. It’s like this popularity contest… not in how many friends you can get, but rather who has the most amazing life, boyfriend, husband, kids… etc…. A friend posted this status yesterday…
“When did marriage become an in your face, "look at us! look at us! we are so in love!!" marketing initiative?! You shouldn't have to prove to the world how happy you are, if you truly are happy.”
AH. Couldn’t have said it better myself. My comment on her status?? “Haha. Love it. It's obvious they're making up for the lack of something.” I totally agree with her statement, and mine. If you are truly happy, you are not boastful, you are not trying to make people envy you. OH you can say whatever you want…. I’m not being boastful, just saying how happy my hubby (ACK) makes me… whatev… we all see through it. I was hesitant to post about this, because I know some people will take this as my jealousy of other’s happiness. Which totally isn’t the case. The fact is, no one is perfect… and when people shout from the rooftops, daily, how perfect their significant other is, it’s like they’re overcompensating for how un-perfect the person really is. Get my drift?? Simple psychology people.
source- left: kyd13 | right: KeepCalmAndStayGold
It got me thinking, I wonder if people read my blog and think these things. I surely hope not. My goal is to be positive here on the blog, but also be real. Lets face it… this post isn’t really all that positive… oh well.. confessions aren’t suppose to be. Right? Anyways… it got me thinking, and I really hope that no one leaves my blog envious, wishing they were me or had my life. (As I’m 100% positive you don’t) While my life is SUPER great (sarcasm)… my goal is to post about relatable topics… not how perfect my kids are, but how un-perfect yet perfect for me they are. Not how perfect Craig and I’s relationship is, but how un-perfect yet awesome we make it.
I also thought about when I post about things like our finances or struggles. and I wondered if you’ve ever left my blog feeling sorry for me/us. GAH! I hope not!! I can’t stand reading those blogs that are all sappy and prey on your heartstrings making you feel sorry for them. Poor pity me. PSHHH. I don’t let myself feel sorry for my hardships.. why the heck would I feel sorry for you. We all have issues. Man, that sounds mean… I swear, I really am a very compassionate person… just sick of all the nonsense! Get a grip.
(Who am I kidding, you probably leave here thinking “Man, her grammar and spelling suck, I’m glad I didn’t go to her school!)
While we were in MI we got to spend some time with long-time family friend. She asked Craig and I when we were finally going to get married. I said “When we can actually go a week with out getting into an argument”. She laughed and said that she has been married over 25 years and still hasn’t had a week like that. Oh how much I love her honesty.
Since we’re on the subject of Facebook… I’d like to touch on another aspect that got my feather’s all ruffled. The posting of false facts. GAH!!! It irks me so much. And I’m seeing it more and more. You are totally subject to your own opinion, but please… don’t use false stats to back it up. Like posting this photo, which has gone VIRAL and stating how amazing you are that you won’t eat meat… or have stopped letting your children eat McDonalds chicken nuggets. THE PHOTO IS FAKE!
image source: fooducate
Well… not really, it’s a real photo, a peek into the process that is called AMR (Advanced Meat Recovery- which is machines scraping the bones clean of any meat, which results in that pink paste.. the FDA ruled this process to be unsafe in beef, but safe for poultry or pork). Stating that McDonalds nuggets (or any other lunch meat, hotdog, etc…) is made this way is nothing short of idiotic! McDonalds chicken nuggets DO NOT look like this. While the nuggets that are mass produced and sold in chain stores could be made in this process… McDonalds nuggets no longer contain “mechanically separated poultry” In fact, the USDA now requires foods that are processed this way to be labeled “containing mechanically separated chicken or turkey” in the ingredients! OH, and also the USDA FSIS also states that no more than 20% of meat in a hotdog can be mechanically separated pork.
So.. here a GENIUS idea… look at the ingredients list of the food you buy. I know all the lunch meat, nuggets and hotdogs in my fridge, right now, do not contain this shit!
I am in no way advocating feeding your children McDonalds… yes, my kids eat it once in awhile. I am advocating, however, to do your damn research before just believing what you read on the internet! Or maybe, just maybe, you could read the article that the image is attached to?!
Are you a FRIENDS fanatic like myself? Do you remember the episode where they bet Chandler he couldn’t make fun of anyone… and then he finally gave in.. let it all out and at the end of his rant, he put his hand out and did that heavy “ahhhh”-like exhale…. like the release of everything that had been bottled up. That is what I’m doing right now…. arms open …. heavy exhale….. ahhh.
Are you wondering why I don’t just delete my Facebook account? C’mon…. what else would I have confessed about; how else would I get my dose of comedic relief?
HAH.
Agree with me?? Or rather, disagree with me?? …. feel free to fill me in on your side of the story. Let’s play nice though… k?
Link up your confession post below. =)
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lol this is so true. I don't eat mcdonalds and actually included it in my confessions this week, but to be fair there was a used band aid in my kids chicken nuggets one time. And now i'm just grossed out all together!
ReplyDeleteI'm facebook liking this post on Blogger! I have a person on my list who constantly posts about her children and how much she loves them. Conveniently leaving out that they were removed from her custody for about 3 years because of her partying. Ugh. Makes me sick.
ReplyDeleteFB annoys me too. I should delete it, but like you, I just can't do it for some reason. I've unsubscribed to so many people I barely have a wall anymore...tee hee. As always, love your blog Kristan.
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The spouting of opinion as fact pisses me off to know end. I just got in a fight with a total stranger on facebook who was giving completely inaccurate information on immunizations. Whether or not to immunize your kids is your own choice and I don't care what you do, but don't tell impressionable, young parents false information, based on your own opinions, and scare them when what you're saying is not based on facts at all. **endrant**
ReplyDeleteI did notice the misspelling of confessions, but decided I like you and your blog too much to correct you. Then, every time I came to read it felt a little like I was neglecting to tell you that you had food in your teeth. That made me feel like a bad friend. How's that for a confessoin (see what I did there)?
I, too, hate the poor-pitiful-me blogs. There is a very popular one out there, who is on everybody's favorite blogs list that is like this. I started reading her and thought the writer was sweet and lovely. Then I realized how she was manipulating me and all her readers. I also realized that when I left thoughtful, kind comments for her, she NEVER responded in any capacity. I stopped reading her blog a while back. I just couldn't stand anymore of the "my life is so hard" posts and the "we're just doing the best we can, please pray for us" posts. I also got really sick of all the comments about how cute and pretty she was. Not out of jealousy, but rather out of the fact that it was so clear that people read her very popular blog, because she is cute and pretty and because of the "hard" life she portrays, rather than because she has anything insightful or interesting to say to the world.
Is that too much to leave in the comments here? Sorry if it is. I love your posts and they always get me thinking. Happy Sunday!
Oh, hahaha this post is so true (and so is Sandra's comment)! But... if we all feel this way... then who are the people who post all of the annoying statuses? Do they think everyone else is annoying, and that their own "happines" is legit?
ReplyDeleteDo you know what is actually sad about Facebook's false bravado? It makes people who are, let's say, a little more naive than ourselves, feel badly about their own lives! I was on the phone with a girlfriend of mine the other day, and I said to her, "did you see that so-and-so just posted a picture of their GIANT new house on Facebook?" She started crying! Saying, "everyone else is so happy and has it all together..." I couldn't believe it. I reassured her that NO ONE is as happy as they pretend to be on Facebook, and no one has it "all together."
Sad that people post false happiness, but even more sad that others measure their own self-worth against it!
Thought-provoking post! I found your blog through Pinterest, will keep reading!
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You are so totally true about the Facebook thing, I usually don't post much anymore on there. It's all a show, and it's quite sickening! I loved reading this post. And I know I definitely don't get those vibes in reading your blog! I always look forward to reading your new posts!!!
ReplyDeleteFirst I want to say you are right on the money with your confession.
ReplyDeleteI have a love/hate relationship with FB. I love it because i can actually keep in touch with family members who live far and I love how old friends have been able to find me and catch up. I However do not like the fact that everybody does exactly what you said. Try to one up the other status'. I rarely post a status bc I have nothing to say. Who cares if your eating a sandwich or taking a shower... Why are you FBing if your in the shower??? really?? Also I HATE that any EX of mine or my BF's can get in contact with us. No offense but we are all adults here and it seems like FB can't let people move on with their own lives because they are too obsessed with stalking people from there past...WOW that felt good to get out.........Needless to say I agree 100% with you and I doubt anyone is leaving your blog thinking less of you because of what you choose to post. Honestly I write on my blog for my own sanity. I do sometimes have "depressing" posts but Its not depressing to me it's more like my own version of prayer. Writing down what has been lingering around in my head is a great way for me to vent and I don't care what people may think I'm happy writing to the people who actually what to read my blog!!!.....
It's eerie how similar some of our confessions are this week... separated at birth? I was actually going to request a DNA sample until I read that you are a FRIENDS fan. haha... that being said our daughters do wear the same pajamas... hmmm. It's a good thing I posted on Tuesday otherwise I'd look like some crazy stalker ;)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you about Facebook! there's a girl who constantly post about how great she is because she doesn't need to go out and party anymore and has grown up and stays home with her children. Although she does have a 10 year old who she never stayed home with for the first 9 years of her life and instead went to the bar every weekend all weekend. Now that she has another child she is the "perfect mom." it's sickening to hear and annoys me to the max! Now that we've moved back to WI and we don't need fb to keep in touch with family, I feel much better and relieved! No more having to hear annoying statues that aren't true! Okay there's my confession in your comments lol. Oh well, if you read this I'm sure you understand :)
ReplyDeleteI have to confess also that I am a FB member and getting really sick of the post about what a great mother comments especially when the grandparents have done most all the raising of her children while she was out drugging, partying etc. Anyway no one ever responds to my comments or visits my blogs. I have been blogging for only a month or 2 but just would like to know if I`m doing right or not. love to all u bloggers. I love reading this paticular Blog.. Thanks so much. thriftyniftytreasures.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteT.H.A.N.K. Y.O.U! For being YOU! Love it! Really hate people who pretend to have a perfect life, marriage, blogging, kids, clean house, writing a book. Yeah, R.I.G.H.T.! Unless they have a maid or a nanny, it isn't real. Maybe they only sleep a few hours a night. Life is not perfect, EVER! And who doesn't know that? AND I really HATE "those" people who send around stuff, saying that women are being abused by a piece of clothing. Sure they are, DUH! MEN! Men do the abusing, men do the cruelty to women, etc. Yes, I know not all Men are bad, and I know that some women are also abusive. But when has any clothing forced women to beg, go with out food, to be beaten? It really seems that a lot of so called experts really aren't and don't have enough sense to research before writing an article.Thanks for being a real person.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on the whole facebook thing, we all have a few friends who are melodramatic, or full of themselves. I just skip over them, I just like to lurk and show pics of my daughter and family. we have family all over so i put pics up so they can see them. I havent done my research on the whole mcdonalds thing but thanks for sharing the info! very insigtful! We try to stay away from that, but its hard sometimes when we get busy, ya know! :) hope you all have a nice week!
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ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this. It's so true and wonderful. I am also so happy to see full love and support from your readers. there's nothing worse than pouring your heart out only to be shot down by trolls.
You and your readers make me happy!
My love/hate relationship with Facebook runs sooooo deep, but I just can't quit it. LOL! I linked up a post here...I had just posted a confessional of sorts on my own blog, so this link-up was perfect! I enjoy reading your blog and I love it when people keep it real.
ReplyDeleteAgree or disagree, I am no longer taking a chance. *s*
ReplyDeletePLUS, I have now started reading WHERE my food comes from, on cans and other items. I try to stick to "Made in Canada" or "Made in the USA". If in doubt, it stays on the shelf.
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I'm glad I'm not the only person who thinks that when girls post about how their husband sent them to get a massage while he cleaned the house and made an art project with the kids. (That would SO not happen in our house.) Your candor is refreshing and funny to boot.
ReplyDeleteI found you through a pin of your play dough recipe, btw. Great blog!
No wonder your life isn't perfect, you feed your kids Mcdonalds.
ReplyDeleteMaybe YOU should do more research.
Start by reading a book.
oh anonymous commenter that just made her blogger profile today to post this comment, way to hide behind the internet!
DeleteWhile my life may not be perfect, I do not hide from it, and am completely happy, more than I can say for you, as basic psychology suggests, those who project their negativity onto others are the most unhappiest.
Try to smile.
I do appreciate the effort you put into commenting though. HAH. Thanks for the page view.
I guess I need to go against the flow and disagree here.
ReplyDeletePeople are allowed to post happy things on facebook. It's the whole point. You don't tell the world when you are feeling shit and things are awful. You say when you are happy, and when things are good.
If people are so insecure about there lives that seeing someone else happy makes them unhappy, should the happy person try and act sad?
I am stoaked for my friends who talk about how good they are at the moment, and that things are going well. Seeing positive things make me feel happy.
If people need others to be less happy then them to feel good about themselves, then the world is a very backwards place
Thanks for taking the time to comment, you are totally entitled to your opinion.
DeleteI'd like to clarify, that it does not make me unhappy for myself when I see other's "happy" posts. My point was that a lot of them are fake. Stating FALSE happy statements is what annoys me, and other's who have commented. Like a friend, who I know has an alcoholic husband and has called countless times crying about how shitty he treats her and then posts to Facebook how lucky she is to have such wonderful husband. every. single. day.
Or the friend who has been cheating on her husband for months, and posts over and over how happy she is in her marriage and how perfect married life is.
I don't think hat every single person that posts a happy moment is bullshitting, but in my newsfeed, I know that a lot of the "my hubby is the best ever" and "my kids are angels" is nothing but pure BS.
Which is my point, Facebook gives a false sense of reality.... some people don't post when they are feeling shit and things are awful, but the fact is... it's part of life... people DO feel shit and things ARE awful sometimes. No ones husband is THAT perfect, and no ones kids are that angelic.
None of us said anything about other's needing to be unhappy. I've had convo's with different friends who talk about how lucky "so and so" is and how perfect her life seems to be... "why couldn't I get that lucky"... "did you see her post on Facebook?"... in which I vomited in my mouth a little bit, as "so and so's" husband was just caught cheating with an ex.
To go a bit further, there are a lot of happy posts that show up in my newsfeed that delight my heart! I'm not a cold-hearted bitch (although some would disagree. hah).