ramblings // on expectations
Sometimes I think we've created a false reality in our minds. Expectations are set way too high. Expectations lead to disappointment. Idk when we started expecting things from the world, like the world owes us something just for breathing. And while you might be telling yourself "I just have high expectations, high standards"- talk to me in 10 years and tell me how those high standards worked for you. I think most of the time, these expectations we have for the people around us.. we can't even live up to ourselves.
I don't want to do this, so I expect you to do it for me.
I'm not happy, so I expect you to make me happy.
You can't rely on others for your happiness. I mean, read any self help book/article... it all starts with you. Finding inner peace and inner happiness is all about finding yourself. It is not someone else job to make you happy.
I expect Craig to know how I am feeling... Instead of just telling him. I expect him to take the trash out... instead of just doing it myself. And when he doesn't do those things, resentment starts. Why didn't he do that? Well... the more important questions is, why didn't I? If I just took the garbage out when I noticed it was full, I wouldn't be annoyed that he didn't.
Let go of expectations and you'll be a hell of a lot happier.
This is something I am working on.... and let me tell you- it is NOT easy. Because I honestly feel if Craig just did the fucking dishes my inner happiness would skyrocket!